What if in Jesus all things could be made new again?
This was the question I journaled, not that long ago. What if the impossible was made possible?
When our hearts have been wounded from a friendship break-up, the messy, emotionally complicated pain, anger, anguish, self-protective consequences become enmeshed in who we are as persons. We may trudge on in life, but those wounds are like carry-on luggage we have to keep dragging along with us. There doesn’t seem to be a place to get those bags checked so we can drop them off. There doesn’t seem to be a way for things to be changed or made new again.
The only way forward is if we learn to trust again. We must learn to entrust ourselves to God first, bury ourselves in him, take refuge in him, and let him be our protector. What’s the alternative? It would be to live in a tall tower with walls on every side. No one can break in to hurt us, but no one can break in with fun and laughter either.
To move forward, we must take risks. Find safe persons and proactively venture forth by sharing who we are. We must dare to be bold and courageous as we ask God to keep our hearts safe. Even if we receive rejection from others, are we not completely accepted by him? What then does it matter if we are rejected? We have nothing to lose and a fuller life to gain.
The crux of the matter is this: in friendships, you recognize one another as deeply flawed and in-process, and you choose to forgive and overlook those flaws. You look at your friend as one for whom Christ died. You see them through the eyes of grace.
But what if they cannot offer that to you? What if you just can’t be guaranteed that? Can you still extend to them the hand of friendship? Because, the truth is, no one can guarantee that. No friendship can guarantee no hurt. It is something that is bound to happen.
God is often misunderstood. Jesus was utterly misunderstood and maligned in his so-called trial. But he didn’t argue, correct, or debate it. He also knew he would be rejected, deserted, disappointed, and abandoned, but that didn’t stop him from love. It didn’t stop him from inviting the disciples into friendship. It doesn’t stop him from inviting us into friendship, to know and experience an unconditional love that is without end — a love that calls out our worth even as he calls out to us.
So this is what it all boils down to: will we venture forward, carrying God’s love in our hearts, knowing that we might get hurt — might be misunderstood, because our hearts are buried in God and he will be our refuge?
Let your answer be yes.
Because in Jesus all things can be made new again. This past weekend, I experienced reconciliation and restoration of a friendship that I thought I had lost forever. In God, the impossible is made possible.
Venture forward. Bury yourself in God. He will be your protector.